Full Life Reflections

Striving for happiness, peace, and fulfillment in a chaotic world

One of my “20 for 2020” goals is to “sell designated items on eBay or similar.”  This is something I’ve been wanting to do since last fall, but I procrastinated on it for many months. The task felt daunting because of the sheer volume of items that I planned to list, but I finally got around to making it happen during the second half of August. In today’s post, I share why I decided to sell wardrobe items online, what I’m selling and why, and the lessons I learned from my expensive shopping mistakes.

selling clothes on eBay

It’s a lot more work than you might think to sell clothes on eBay!

Why I Listed My Items on eBay

Over the last couple of weeks, I spent a number of hours listing thirty items – clothes, shoes, and accessories – on eBay. The time spent included taking photos of the pieces I planned to sell (or finding stock photos online), writing descriptions, packing things up, and setting prices. As with many tasks in life, this process took a lot longer than I thought it would. I have very little experience with selling items online, as I’ve generally opted to either donate my castoffs or take them to a local consignment store instead. So why did I decide to go the eBay route this time around? There were three main reasons for my decision, as I’ll detail below.

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We’re now over halfway through the year (what just may be the strangest year many of us have experienced!), so I think it’s time for me to check in on my 2020 theme. In my last post of 2019, I announced that my word for this year would be “enough,” and I shared some thoughts about changes I’d like to make in my life related to this theme. Since then, I’ve touched upon “enough” in some of the wardrobe-related posts that I’ve done this year, as well as in the first essay that I published after the coronavirus pandemic took hold this past spring.

enough vs. too much

What’s enough? What’s not enough? And what’s too much?

Because of the chaos going on in the world, I haven’t kept my yearly theme “top of mind” as much as I usually do. Of course, that’s understandable, as most of our lives have been turned upside down in various and unforeseen ways over the past five months. However, this theme is still important to me, so I’d like to take some time now to reflect upon the shifts I’ve made thus far related to “enough.”

Today’s post focuses on the more physical and tangible manifestations of enough – or “not enough” – in my life. I’ll address the psychological and self-esteem issues (the “Am I enough?” component that I wrote about in my initial essay) in a follow-on post at a later time, when I’ll also highlight additional changes I’d like to make before we head into 2021 (which will hopefully go much more smoothly than this year has gone!).

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It’s time for part two of my personal style update. As a reminder, in my last post, I told you about a style course (now available as a standalone offering) that I took this year to help me better understand and translate my personal style aesthetic. In today’s post, I share some of the exercises I did as part of that course and what I learned about myself and my style as a result. I also outline the challenges I’m still experiencing in dressing in line with the image I want to project. If you love posts that include lots of photos, you’re in luck, as I share many examples here, both of others’ outfits and my own.

Let’s dive in! One of the first things I did was create two Pinterest boards: one that depicted looks I loathe and another that highlighted looks I love. I had fun compiling these boards and enjoyed some good laughs along the way. Interestingly, I found it easier to find examples of outfits that I didn’t like than pinpointing ones that I could readily see myself wearing (especially for my “real life” – more on that later). I think a reason for that discrepancy is that just one garment or accessory could immediately land a look in the dislike category, while pretty much all style elements needed to line up in order for me to classify an ensemble as one that I adored.

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Before I delve into today’s main topic, I want to share a bit about how I have been feeling. Time continues to feel strange. Sometimes it seems to move at the speed of light, and other times it feels like I’m stuck in a slow-motion time warp. In many ways, the past three months have seemed more like three years. I can scarcely remember the time before the coronavirus pandemic started. Surely, my life hasn’t always been like this, but my memory feels fuzzy and uncertain.

I’ve heard the state that we’re in now referred to as “the infinite present,” as it’s difficult to plan for the future when we have absolutely no idea of what that future will look like. Of course, it’s always true that we don’t know what’s around the corner, but we usually have a much better sense of it than we do now.

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Has anyone else felt like they’ve been in a “time warp” recently?

As I’ve written about previously (like in the three-part series that started with this post), I struggle a lot with depression and anxiety, in addition to a number of physical health issues. Since our minds and bodies are inexorably linked, it’s not uncommon for me to experience flares on both the physical and emotional fronts simultaneously. This has been the case for me lately and it’s often been difficult to push past my pain, anxiety, and inertia to get even the smallest of tasks done. I always think I can do so much more, but then the days rush by and all of a sudden it’s Friday afternoon, with not that much to show for my week. One thing I always want to do more of is post on this blog, but it’s been hard to gather my thoughts and appropriately write them down.

I know I’m not alone in my struggles with time, depression, anxiety, and inertia. I’m tired of beating myself up about not getting enough done, so I’m just going to do my best and trust that it’s enough. Since enough is my word for the year, perhaps one of the lessons I need to learn is that my best is enough, even when it doesn’t feel like it so much of the time.

How Emotional Issues Impact Style

I’m sure I will expand upon some of these thoughts in the future, but now I’m going to switch to the topic of personal style. Although it may seem like personal style has nothing to do with the emotional issues that many of us grapple with, I’ve learned that style and our moods are more linked than most people think. In fact, our style can play a large role in our confidence, happiness, and well-being.

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So much has changed regarding the state of the world since I last posted. Although it feels trite and trivial to be writing about my wardrobe amidst so much pain, chaos, and unrest, I recognize that many people want to have other things to read about besides what’s going on in the news. While I’ve been reading a lot of news myself, I’ve often needed a break and found a dearth of new alternate content to peruse. We all need some balance in terms of the information we consume, so I’ll leave the commentary on national and world events to those who are far more qualified to weigh in on it than I am, and I’ll move forward with my standard content here on the blog.

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Now more than ever, I’m holding positive thoughts for the world…

Sometimes when I’m struggling with anxiety (which is a common occurrence for me), I turn to wardrobe management as a way to distract myself and quell the “noise” inside of my brain. Since other people like to read my wardrobe musings, I’ll continue to share them here on the blog. I had thought this post would be related to personal style, but I’ll save that one for next time (hopefully next week), as I’d like to follow up on a few things from my last post.

Part of that post dealt with examining my closet “holding zone,” as well as what I’ve termed my “skinny box,” both of which I’ve recently combined in a single plastic storage bin.  After reviewing each individual item again and reading your comments, I’ve come to decisions on almost everything – and I’ve also decided to pass on some additional items. Today’s post recaps what I’ve opted to do – and why.

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